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Good Advice From X Dating Club

Every year, thousands of people meet right here on X Dating Club. You can too. We offer a great environment that gives you control over your online dating experience, allowing you to progress at your own pace in order to establish a relationship.

Keeping in mind that you have to give a little to get a little, we also want you to exercise caution when getting to know potential new partners whether you meet them in a bar, through a friend or on our site.

While Online

Be picture perfect

You'll receive as many as 20 times more responses to your profile if you post photographs. Choose a headshot that clearly shows your face smiling and in a flattering light, plus one full-length shot and another showing you doing something that interests you. Make sure you use a current picture. In the long run, honesty is the best start to a relationship.

Don't wait for cupid and fate

With online dating you get in what you put out, the more active you are on the site the better your profile searches and the more likely people are to contact you. Logging on during your lunch hour is a great way to keep your profile active.

Get to know your matches at your own pace

Get to know potential dates before meeting them in person by exchanging messages through our anonymous email or instant messenger. Keep it that way until you feel ready to take it further. As long as you're using our internal messaging systems you can always choose to block someone from contacting you and report anyone you are not sure about to our care team at the click of a button.

Remember "Password" is not a password

Neither is "123456". As with any website, be it your bank, eBay or Meetic, choosing a password that isn't easy to guess is just good practice. Also, change your passwords on a regular basis. Remember, we will never ask you to write your password or credit card details by email. So if you receive such an email, it didn't come from us so please tell us about it.

Use your instincts

Apply the same common sense when meeting new people on a dating site like ours as you do when you meet someone new for the first time in a bar or through a friend. If someone you've recently or never met asks you for money, they probably don't have the best intentions. If you see a profile that's troubling, use the "Report Abuse" button located on every profile to let us know, and we'll look into it right away.

Spark interest

Craft a good headline for your profile. Something upbeat and positive, creating a challenge is a good strategy such as; "I'm looking for a man who can make me laugh." To generate interest in you and spark conversation list out five of your favorite things in your profile.

Never give out financial information or send money

Our website is well moderated and we work hard to keep our community safe, which is why we encourage our members to use our internal email and IM services. Although scams are extremely rare, it's still a good idea to be aware of how to recognise the warning signals, especially if you are communicating with somebody privately outside of the site.

Any scam is likely to be long-distance and would involve a request at some point to send cash abroad using a wire transfer service such as Western Union. Of course you should never do this; just as you would never give money to someone you recently met in the pub or cafe. Report anyone who asks for:
  • Money needed for airfare/visa/passport to come and see you
  • Money needed to pay for hospital fees
  • Money needed following robbery/disaster while overseas
  • Money needed to complete studies
  • An unlikely business deal
  • Help to cash cheques

If you have any questions, please contact our Customer Service.

Meeting in Person for the First Time

A first meeting with any new love interest can be exciting, but you must always be 'date smart' whether you met your date through a friend, in a bar or on an online dating site.

Where to meet

Cafés really are great places for first dates. A cup of coffee can be a short encounter or a longer meeting, depending on how well you hit it off! Wherever you meet it's much better that it is somewhere busy that you know already and not a private home or hotel room.

Tell a friend

Tell at least one friend or family member you are meeting, where you are going and when you expect to return. Let your date know the meeting is not a secret.

Stay sober

Try to avoid having one too many as this could impair your ability to make good decisions.

Take your mobile phone

If you have a mobile phone, take it with you on dates. Most mobiles can make emergency calls even when locked, or out of credit.

Don't ask the other person to pick you up

Get yourself to and from the date, even if you have to have a friend drive you or take a taxi.

Set up a second date - if you are ready and feel comfortable

And remember to follow all of these tips on subsequent meetings, until you feel confident with your new friend. If the other person is sincerely interested in you, he or she will want you to feel safe and be happy to take things slowly

Long Distance Meetings

Fifty years ago, the idea of "courting" someone who lived in the next town (much less across the globe) was pretty much unheard of. Today, technology has made a puddle out of an ocean and we constantly hear of inspiring long-distance and international love stories. Exciting as it is, you should always take extra care and follow the tips below when travelling to meet a date for the first time.

Stay in a hotel

If you can't afford to stay in a hotel, don't go. Never stay at the other person's home on your first visit.

Use taxis to get to and from the airport

If the other person wants to greet you at the airport - great! It shows interest and it's polite. But don't get into a personal vehicle with someone who you are meeting for the first time.

Keep your hotel location private

Until you are completely certain of the person's intentions, don't reveal exactly where you're staying.

Remember to keep family and friends posted

Always tell someone who you are meeting, where you are going and when you plan to return.